Posted on August 15, 2025

When we greet someone and ask, "how are you doing?", we often expect responses like "I'm good", "I'm great", or "Living the dream". We typically don't want to hear answers such as "not so good" or "I'm a hot mess". This is because these greetings are usually just social pleasantries without the intention of having a full conversation. To make these interactions more meaningful, consider asking follow-up questions when someone responds with "not so good", such as "is it something you want to share?" This approach requires investing more time in listening to others, which can be beneficial. Taking extra minutes to listen can potentially improve someone's mood or change their negative feelings. In some cases, it may even provide significant help to someone in need.

Even if the gesture seems inconsequential, it can still make a difference; however, there are times when it may not have any impact, and that is acceptable too. The important thing is making an effort to listen to someone who might need support or reassurance. Therefore, if you ask someone how they are doing, be prepared to listen if needed. Otherwise, refrain from asking.